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Sternberg's Triangular Love Scale

What are the components of your love relationship? Intimacy? Passion? Decision/commitment? All three components? Two of them?

To complete the following scale, fill in the blank spaces with the name of one person you love or care about deeply. Then rate your agreement with each of the items by using a nine-point scale in which 1 = "not at all," 5 = "moderately," and 9 = "extremely." Use points in between to indicate these values. Then consult the scoring key at the end of the scale.

Intimacy Component
  1. _____ I am actively supportive of ____________________'s wellbeing.
  2. _____ I have a warm relationhip with ____________________.
  3. _____ I am able to count on _____________________ in times of need.
  4. _____ ____________________ is able to count on me in times of need.
  5. _____ I am willing to share myself and my possessions with ______________________.
  6. _____ I receive considerable emotional support from ______________________.
  7. _____ I give considerable emotional support to ____________________.
  8. _____ I communicate well with ______________________.
  9. _____ I value ____________________ greatly in my life.
  10. _____ I feel close to ______________________.
  11. _____ I have a comfortable relationship with ______________________.
  12. _____ I feel that I really understand ______________________.
  13. _____ I feel that ____________________ really understands me.
  14. _____ I feel that I can really trust ______________________.
  15. _____ I share deeply personal information about myself with _____________________.
Passion Component
  1. _____ Just seeing ______________________ excites me.
  2. _____ I find myself thinking about _____________________ frequently during the day.
  3. _____ My relationship with ______________________ is very romantic.
  4. _____ I find ______________________ to be very personally attractive.
  5. _____ I idealize ____________________.
  6. _____ I cannot imagine another person making me as happy as ____________________ does.
  7. _____ I would rather be with ____________________ than with anyone else.
  8. _____ There is nothing more important to me than my relationship with ______________________.
  9. _____ I especially like physical contact with ______________________.
  10. _____ There is something almost "magical" about my relationship with ______________________.
  11. _____ I adore ____________________.
  12. _____ I cannot imagine life without ____________________.
  13. _____ My relationship with ____________________ is passionate.
  14. _____ When I see romantic movies and read romantic books I think of ____________________.
  15. _____ I fantasize about ____________________.
Decision/Commitment Component
  1. _____ I know that I care about ____________________.
  2. _____ I am committed to maintaining my relationship with ____________________.
  3. _____ Because of my commitment to ______________________ , I would not let other people come between us.
  4. _____ I have confidence in the stability of my relationship with ______________________ .
  5. _____ I could not let anything get in the way of my commitment to ______________________ .
  6. _____ I expect my love for ______________________ to last for the rest of my life.
  7. _____ I will always feel a strong responsibility for ______________________.
  8. _____ I view my commitment to ______________________ as a solid one.
  9. _____ I cannot imagine ending my relationship with ____________________.
  10. _____ I am certain of my love for ______________________ .
  11. _____ I view my relationship with ____________________ as permanent.
  12. _____ I view my relationship with ______________________ as a good decision.
  13. _____ I feel a sense of responsibility toward ______________________ .
  14. _____ I plan to continue my relationship with ______________________.
  15. _____ Even when ______________________ is hard to deal with, I remain committed to our relationship.
Scoring Key

Add your ratings for each of the three sections- intimacy, passion, and commitment/ decision- and write the totals in the blanks below. Divide each subscore by 15 to get an average subscale score.

An average rating of 5 on a particular subscale indicates a moderate level of the component represented by the subscale; for example, an average rating of 5 on the intimacy subscale indicates a moderate amount of intimacy in the relationship you chose to measure. Following this example further, a higher average rating would indicate a higher level of intimacy, and a lower average rating would indicate a lesser amount of intimacy. Examining your ratings for each of the three subscales will give you an idea of how you perceive your love relationship to be composed of various amounts of intimacy, passion, and decision/ commitment.

Sternberg's Triangular Love Scale (adapted) from The Triangle of Love by Robert J. Sternberg. Copyright © 1988 by BasicBooks, Inc. Reprinted by permission of BasicBooks, a division of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.